I heard this
thought-provoking quote by President Dieter F. Uchtdorf a few weeks ago in this
beautiful talk about the power of gratitude in any circumstances:
“How much of
life do we miss by waiting for the rainbow before thanking God for rain?”
When I heard that,
I immediately realized that I am a "rain, rain go away" singer, and
definitely a rainbow waiter. Saturday it rained all day. I was
disappointed about staying inside and expected my toddler to be too, but she
was thrilled about all the things we could do inside. She reminded me
that when some opportunities are lost, different—and sometimes
better—opportunities are received. Throughout the day, she pointed out the
window and cheerfully exclaimed, “Rain! Rain! Rain!” We looked together
at everything coated in water and I marveled at how much bolder the usual
colors looked. There was no arching rainbow like I would have loved to
show her, but the spring greens were more vibrant, the purples richer, and the
yellows even more brilliant. And I thanked God for the rain, realizing
also how much more vibrant my life is with metaphorical rain.
I’m coming to
learn that gratitude is action before it is attitude. These actions are helping me to become
grateful no matter what:
Eliminate
Entitlement
Greed is the
opposite of gratitude, and it starts with a sense of entitlement. There’s
a story by Aesop about a goose that laid golden eggs—one egg per day. The
farmer eventually got tired of waiting for the eggs and decided there must be
dozens of golden eggs inside the goose, and demanding immediate gratification,
he killed the goose. There were no eggs inside her, and no more would
ever be laid. When we feel entitled to a rainbow, we miss the beauty and
practicality of the rain. Eliminate entitlement—all it takes is empathy and
humility, which as C.S. Lewis said is “not thinking less of yourself, but
thinking of yourself less.”
Give to be
Grateful
Author
Elizabeth Bibesco wrote, “Blessed are they who can give without remembering and
take without forgetting.” Givers are grateful. Maybe it’s because
service helps them to forget their own problems. Maybe it’s because doing
things for others makes them more aware of what is done for them. Or
maybe it’s because giving connects us, helping us to realize how dependent we
are on each other. Give no matter what—all it takes is making someone
smile.
Quit
Comparing
“Comparison
is the thief of joy,” Theodore Roosevelt said. I’m coming to learn that
when we compare ourselves to others, oftentimes we’re comparing ourselves to someone
wearing the same jersey. We’re all on the same team. That means that when one person succeeds, it
doesn’t diminish our success!
Sometimes
when it’s raining, it’s easy to compare our current situation to past or future
sunshine. Those are and will be good
times—but dwelling on those leads us to lose focus on our beautiful purpose in
the present. Quit comparing—all it takes
is remembering who you really are.
See Surprises
See the
beautiful surprises God has given you, and consider His joy when he sees your
joy. Remember the rainbows you didn’t have to search for. See surprises—all it
takes is counting the blessings you’ve been given without even asking for them.
Let God be
God
This may be
the hardest—it requires being still, trusting your unknown future to an
all-knowing Heavenly Father, and remembering that no matter how heavy the downpour,
the rain is always temporary.